My 5 y.o.son and I are caught in a bitter divorce right now. up until kindergarten started in september, Joshua was with me 75% of the time. but all of a sudden after i enrolled him in the school in my district, about a week before school started she enrolled him in her district behind my back. then a week after that i get a petition for child support. $810 a month! she only sees Joshua for about an hour a day because he goes to daycare at 6am then the school bus picks him up from there. then after school its back to daycare till 630! then hes in bed by 8. i always called between 7 and 8 to say goodnight and my ex would get mad. he stays with me from friday till sunday night. as of now i am being very patient but will be filing for custody since there is no custody order as of now. she is an unfit mother. long story short, caught her many times cheating on me when we were together but let it go for our son but eventually i couldnt stomach it anymore. so i knew it was time to end it when i caught her with a guy and she said that i was seeing things and i need help. i know she loves cocaine, x, and vodka. she has a boyfriend, second since we divorced and this one was a friend of hers when we were married. who i know for a fact hits her because her male cousin told me about it. he aproached me one day and said "shes a child, you can do much better. she called me to break up a fight between her and boyfriend." and thats coming from her family. i know her family supports her cause they have to. i can see it in their eyes but i dont blame them for keeping the mouths shut. but things have gone way too far the way she treats me like her baby sitter and not her sons father. shes always changing the rules and making it difficult for me to talk or see joshua. my father says to me she likes to play "head games" with me. everyone around me wonders why i have been treated so badly by the court systerm and the only thing i came up with is male discrimination. my layer says i cant do anything about the fact that she is getting 50% of my take home pay and she doesnt even have to show reciepts. ill make about $15,000 after taxes this year after support. she makes more than i do so with support shell bring in about $47,000 this year. she has mentioned something to joshua about moving in with her boyfriend the 2 of them. i try not to get overly emotional when we talk about his mother because i dont want him to dislike her. i want to protect him from all dangers and right now its his own mother. brings tears to my eyes. i need court, costs, lawers fees but i just cant pull it off with my pay being garnished 50%. oy ya, forgot to mention i work in a local dairy and things arent looking good so i might be out of work soon. company lost $200,000 last year. we need to upgrade facilities and equipment just to meet regulations and with the losses well have to close up. my advice to you is keep your mind on that kid when youre feeling blue. that always keeps me motivated and positive.
Not my child, but still someone's kid...
