Scorphonic
No Man is an Ireland.
Hey Steve,
Lots of good advice here -- especially a ten count before speaking with anyone in an "official" position. I would guess that your post here is about the same as a ten count. :thumbup:
I'd revert to the home visitation. Once Trin sees how little mom cares -- not showing up or showing up and only staying a short time -- she'll start to see her in a different light. And she'll come to appreciate you all the more.
And, as has been mentioned, you might try talking to her about what was going on in the hotel room. And if she's fidgety, you might then see about getting her to talk to a professional -- she may have been exposed to things she should not have been. And that, I'm sure you would agree, would be a bad thing.
Your feelings for her are quite obviously very strong, and your commitment to the work of being a good guardian is really commendable.
The universe is a funny, messed up place: we don't get choose the family into which we're born. But in the face of such madness, that little girl is fortunate to have someone who's caring enough to try and build something better for her.
Out of all the fantastic suggestions people have given...this has got to be the advice to follow...its gentle and wont scare the life out of your child.
You're obviously a fantastic father, do anything you believe is correct, look after #1 first and then worry about yourself.