lol, well thanks to all who replied.
I was just kind of daydreaming when I wrote this after having come back from their house. She is quite hot after all......
Thing is, I have in fact been thinking of an arranged marriage more and more in the last while. Not with this girl though (she's just hot that's the main attraction there I believe). But there is a lot to be said for arranged marriage in general. I know many people who I grew up with that are as western as they get but had arranged marriages. They are all happily married.
Of course there is a dark side to arranged marriage. There are the cases of retard males (but this is as common with arranged marriages as it is in non-arranged in my opinion....because we all know
abused wives happen in non-arranged marriages as well VERY often, unfortunately).
But the thing about arranged marriage is it's a concept to marriage I am growing to appreciate more and more as time goes on. I have seen as many people that I know in happy and HEALTHY relationships that were arranged than I see in non-arranged.
What does arranged even mean? It does not mean you walk into a room to get married to a girl youve never seen or really talked to before. Arranged these days in western countries (and even back in India much of the time) means families get in touch with each other with suitable potential spouses. Then these two potential spouses get to know each other a little bit. They talk, they even date. Then after getting to know each other enough to formulate a decision....They give a yes or no. It is like the "courting" process of medieval Europe in many ways.
If the girl says no.....no deal. If the guy says no...no deal.
It is not all that different from those things like LavaLife and Matchquest or whatever. Instead of a computer algorithm finding your mate....it is your family.
Why am I growing more receptive to this concept of arranged marriage more and more? Because I do not see myself getting married otherwise. I am attracted to the wrong kinds of girls. And the wrong kinds of girls are attracted to me. Several of my good friends have been in very difficult relationships that started off for a few YEARS as damn near ideal loving relationships. Well, things went a little sour in each of those cases. Why? because the type of people that they are. They like things and instant gratification. And long-term healthy relationships arent build on that.
I have given it some thought and come to a partial conclusion that the kind of girl who is truly sound and honest, and governed not by material desires but rather by her own heart and loving nature will be most readily accessible through an arranged marriage. Girls I have dated kind of fit the bill.....but not really. In the end they are just out for themselves and to have a good time. I would not be happy in the long run with that.
But at the same time, I want magic to happen. I want to feel that spring in my step and all that. My buddies that got arranged marriages do attest that it is possible and they enjoy it....but you have to be patient and smart in picking the right one...even through the arranged process.
So, going forward....I dont know. I am going to wait until I graduate and work for a year or two before I start the process on this. So its at least 2 years away from now. But I am inclined to go with an arranged marriage. If I dont stumble across the perfect woman in my own personal life before then....arranged it is!!
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