I might be wrong, but i don't think that rider weight influences the choice of oil that much.
It's not like spring rate, which is entirely dependent on weight. Compression and rebound is what oil weight influences, and there is more room for personal choice than with spring rates.
Either way, i think it is important to match the compression/rebound of the front to the rear.
Since you cant tune anything it makes no sens to go super heavy in the front and have a rock solid front and a wobbly rear.
Using 15w oil i think that i get a pretty decent match, the front and rear move more or less together when hitting a bump and it really makes the bike feel that much better.
It also really helps cure the head dive under hard braking, but doesn't make the bike uncomfortable.
Basically, i would say either one could work for you, and would be an improvement over the OEM water they call oil.
(i am 185 lbs with no gear, rear shock on 5, 32mm of rider sag in the front with 0.90 springs and 28mm in the rear)