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Well, today I went for a few rides before work. Once me, once with the girlfriend, to a few different places.

I came home to talk to my dad, who hit a motorcyclist today. He was at fault, left turn, swears he didn't see the bike coming. Now I know I'm quite cautious in any form of urban environment, slow down when going through intersections, and all the things I can do as a rider. The guy was wearing pants and a t, girl on back in daisy dukes, flip-flops, and a t. Guy wasn't hurt, girl got some road rash (maybe she'll learn ATGATT, probably not though, I hear it's hot outside). Luckily they both walked away ok other than the road rash.

So I've been riding about 4 years now, and he comes up with a bribe so to say. He'll give me cash to stop riding. Now, I want to respect his wish, but I'm not about to be bribed out of my favorite hobby. He's giving me time to decide, but I'm letting him calm down before I tell him I want to keep riding.

So, what would you do? Like I said, my mind is mostly made up, I just want to hear some opinions.
 
If it were me i'd quit riding for a month or so until the incident blows over... just for the piece of mind for my dad. As far as permanently, i definitely couldn't do that, it's my favorite thing to do... i don't care how much cash is offered :rockon:
 
If you are considering the cash, then you don't really have a deep passion for riding.
There's your answer....


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Happy to hear everyone is OK.

I'd give it some time to blow over. If it were one of my kids I'd be worrying. THE MOST dangerous thing for motorcycles is cars turning left in front of them. Remember the saying "ride like you are invisible".
 
I think there could be more going on than what's obviously on the surface. I agree on giving it time.

Be considerate of his feelings he's probably going through some trauma and guilt. The rider also brought something to this accident. Two up, less maneuverability and stopping and probably not expecting the classic left hand turn.
 
The same as others... Give it some time to blow over then convince your dad to buy a bike with the money he would give you, and he will never ask anything like that again
 
Tough one for sure...maybe take some time off out of respect for your dad. Time heals. Tell him he can take that cash and pay for a defensive driving course you take with him as a show of support. I agree no way you can quit riding though. I wouldn't. Good luck.

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cranduit said:
Well, today I went for a few rides before work. Once me, once with the girlfriend, to a few different places.

I came home to talk to my dad, who hit a motorcyclist today. He was at fault, left turn, swears he didn't see the bike coming. Now I know I'm quite cautious in any form of urban environment, slow down when going through intersections, and all the things I can do as a rider. The guy was wearing pants and a t, girl on back in daisy dukes, flip-flops, and a t. Guy wasn't hurt, girl got some road rash (maybe she'll learn ATGATT, probably not though, I hear it's hot outside). Luckily they both walked away ok other than the road rash.

So I've been riding about 4 years now, and he comes up with a bribe so to say. He'll give me cash to stop riding. Now, I want to respect his wish, but I'm not about to be bribed out of my favorite hobby. He's giving me time to decide, but I'm letting him calm down before I tell him I want to keep riding.

So, what would you do? Like I said, my mind is mostly made up, I just want to hear some opinions.
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So let's get this right, your dad causes an accident and wants to punish you for it by stopping you riding. Your dad did not see the rider as he was not paying attention.
I would offer your dad some money to take advanced driving lessons.

Nelly
 
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So let's get this right, your dad causes an accident and wants to punish you for it by stopping you riding. Your dad did not see the rider as he was not paying attention.
I would offer your dad some money to take advanced driving lessons.

Nelly
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that's what i was thinking

also it sounds like the motorcyclist wasn't that clued up if they let a pillion ride with no gear on, with experience, skill and a keen 6th sense you will learn to avoid potential accidents and bad drivers
 
My wife was involved in a motorcycle accident almost a year ago to the day mother's day to be exact ,her first mothers day she was wearing gear but spent a week in the hospital having her spleen removed after the wreck in the hospital she said babe i hope this doesnt mean youl stop riding i kissed her forehead and said babe if this had been a car accident do you think id never get in a car again
 
Ha - good point. I'm not sure what amount I would stop riding for, but there's definitely a dollar amount.

I offered a friend 1,000 dollars if he never rides again without a helmet but if he ever gets in an accident, he has to give me the cash back. He's considering it. I'm looking for a way to find a grand I don't really have.

Give your dad some time.
 
If he hit a pedestrian would he pay you to stop walking? Or stop biking if it was a cyclist? Im sorry but I don't understand the logic here.

I would never give up riding in exchange for cash. Maybe you can get him to buy you better gear with the money! I would use this situation to my advantage and stress to him the importance of quality gear.


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Be respectful of your dad, as someone said, he is feeling guilty and worried about you. That's what caring parents do.

Take some time off, a couple of weeks. And talk to your dad. Explain your passion for riding, how you have your gear on and what you've learned about defensive riding. Tell him you know it is dangerous, that's why you are extra cautious.

A side story, my son was driving the van and he was turning left off of our street. A Harley with three headlights was coming from our right. My son is about to go and cut off the Harley. I calmly said wait for the biker assuming he say the bike and was just going to start rolling through the turn and accelerate after the biker passed. He hits the brakes, looks at me and said, "I didn't see him". So it can happen to anyone.
 
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Be respectful of your dad, as someone said, he is feeling guilty and worried about you. That's what caring parents do.

Take some time off, a couple of weeks. And talk to your dad. Explain your passion for riding, how you have your gear on and what you've learned about defensive riding. Tell him you know it is dangerous, that's why you are extra cautious.

A side story, my son was driving the van and he was turning left off of our street. A Harley with three headlights was coming from our right. My son is about to go and cut off the Harley. I calmly said wait for the biker assuming he say the bike and was just going to start rolling through the turn and accelerate after the biker passed. He hits the brakes, looks at me and said, "I didn't see him". So it can happen to anyone.
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I agree with this. He is your father. He saw first hand how easily it can happen. He feels extremely guilty, and doesn't want to see it happen to you.
 
2006_FZ6 said:
Be respectful of your dad, as someone said, he is feeling guilty and worried about you. That's what caring parents do.

Take some time off, a couple of weeks. And talk to your dad. Explain your passion for riding, how you have your gear on and what you've learned about defensive riding. Tell him you know it is dangerous, that's why you are extra cautious.
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This. Unless he's offering enough for you to retire! But then HE probably won't have anything for retirement. So either way, keep riding after a little time off maybe.
 
I was put in a similar situation by my mother. She didn't hit anyone, but a coworker of her's was killed on his motorcycle coming home from work late at night by a drunk driver. She begged me to stop riding.

I took a couple weeks off while she and I discussed her feels on the matter, out of respect for her and the trauma she experienced emotionally. In the end, she realized that it wouldn't have mattered if her coworker was on a bike or in a car, he would have died that night as he was his hit head-on coming from his left at 50-60mph.

I've also had an ex-girlfriend try to tell me not to ride after I had a wreck in 2008 with minor shoulder damage. Needless to say, she didn't win and didn't stick around very long afterward.

Motorcycling is something that is either apart of you or it isn't. The only person who can ask you to stop or convince you to stop is YOURSELF. If you allow anyone else to convince you of this, you will regret it and ultimately resent the person who made you stop riding.
 
Its funny I often think about what I would do in a similar situation. I have a cousin who rides. For some reason I worry that he will get in an accident on his bike. I just don't feel he's mechanically inclined and has a good instinct. I then think about how much pressure will be put on me to stop and if I will end up stopping.
 
Well, I WAS looking at a set of Motoport Mesh Kevlar the other day...

He gave me a week to decide, so I'll talk to him about it next time he brings it up.

Obviously the amount of money isn't important as you could always look at it from "I spent how much on my hobby? I could have saved all that and done *blank* with it!"
 
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